Here is the thought-provoking question of the week: If you could change one thing about the world, what would it be? Would you end world hunger? Would you stop all wars? What is the one thing that tugs at your heartstrings? Let me know what you think!!!
As I think about this question I think that if we learned to love each other just a little more each day, it could change the planet. There would be less hate, more compassion and maybe we wouldn’t need as many lawyers in the world either.
What do you think?
All is well, right?
I’ve been thinking a lot about worry lately. I guess I’ve been worrying about worrying too much. I know I worry about things that I shouldn’t even be giving a second thought. But I would say that I am better than I was. I used to worry about so much more. But I still catch myself worrying about things that may happen in the future or how my past will affect my present moment. Then my wise sister, over and over, keeps reminding me to stay in the present moment. And I keep forgetting, moment by moment, to be in the present moment. But really if you think about it, if we stay in the present moment, it will drastically reduce worry. Worry is the product of thinking about the past or the future.
So I’m going to work on being more in the present moment, enjoying the people that show up in these moments and to have fun. Goodbye worry, hello peace.
All is well, right?
I’ve been thinking about trust lately. A coworker and I had a conversation about this and I found it fascinating. For me, trust is something that is earned. For some people it is easy to earn it and for others it is real difficult, depending how jaded a person is. I explain to people that I have a circle of trust that people are in. I don’t have many people in this circle but I know the people who are in it, I can trust with my life. And for me, as I can describe myself as a part-time jaded person, it is easy for someone to be moved out of my circle. As for a reinstatement into the circle, it doesn’t take much but here is where the thought of trust was so poignant this morning for me. I believe that people sometimes in our hastiness or lack of social interaction, do things that cause other people not to trust us. And so when a person loses this trust, I believe that people don’t know how to earn it back. In other words, it is easy to lose someone’s trust but hard to earn it back because we as humans have a difficult time figuring out how to do that.
So what are some ways to earn someone’s trust back:
- Speak your truth to them. Become vulnerable and speak from your heart.
- Do something REALLY nice for them that you know they like.
- Love them. Tell them you love them. Show them that you love them.
- Listen to them and understand where they are coming from.
- Keep secrets they have shared with you.
These are just a few ideas. Does anyone have other ideas of how you can build your trust towards someone? Here is a link on Wikipedia on how to build trust in a relationship.
So, as an added note, why to people not trust another person? Ultimately, they don’t want to get hurt. So we put up a wall and put up our guard and become vigilante. What do you think? Why do you think you don’t trust? I would love to hear from you.
I wrote in my journal this morning about how life just isn’t what it seems. And this theme came up for me over and over this last month in January. So this is the lesson I learned this past month and I won’t forget it as I move into February. To explain, in my mind, I tend to want to “orchestrate” an event coming up or an incident that I feel should look “this way”. So I spend all this thoughtful energy on how I think this event should happen. The event comes and goes and it works out, not as I orchestrated it in my mind but it works out much better. Better, as a matter of fact, than I could have ever imagined. These scenarios usually happen at work and I am pleasantly surprised that everything has worked out rather nicely. Have you had something like this happen? I would love to hear your scenario about it.
So the lesson here for me is to spend my mindful energy on something more important like the present moment and joyfulness and happiness and how I bring more of these things into my life. Therefore, my theme for February is going to be mindfulness. And around this theme, I’m going to read the book, Wherever You Go, There You Are by Jon Kabat-Zinn. I’m also going to order some of this meditation tapes so I’ll let you know how it goes.
So join me if you so desire to bring more mindfulness, happiness, joy, love and abundance into your life this month through mindfulness.
Lately, I’ve been noticing things or people that I don’t trust. So my question is how would my life be different if I trusted everything, if I trusted myself and if I trusted that I was right where I needed to be? How would I feel? I know my worries would probably be non-existent. For example, one thing I don’t trust is the healthcare system. How would things change in my life if I trusted doctors, health insurance companies and doctors. Or the other side of the coin, is it good to be untrusting of some things or people? If we trust too much, will it create more problems in some ways?
Ah, lots of questions about trust. What do you think? Is trust a good thing or a bad thing or both? I’d love to hear what you think about trust.
2013 brought many good times and new beginnings and some endings. But three things I said I was going to do to live my life differently this past year were:
1. Live more with grace. In other words, I wasn’t going to try and control many things in my life that I probably couldn’t control anyway. I go with the flow more and I don’t worry as much as I used to.
2. I wanted to have fun and that I did. I have a fun job and I have friends in my life that simply want to have fun too. I went to Sedona in October with two dear friends and I traveled to Louisiana to celebrate my nephew’s wedding. This was more family time which is always fun!
3. I live life easy. If it seems too hard or if there are resistances, then I don’t do it or I go a different direction. Easy and breezy is how I live my life. I figure that if it is hard or there are resistances then I’m not meant to go that way. (There is the old grace thing again.)
So I’m very proud of myself incorporating these three principles into my life which has brought more happiness and joy in my life.
As for 2014, a friend of mine said he was “turning a new leaf” and I thought about what I would do to improve my life this next year. Things are going pretty good and I am really happy with my job and my personal life. I could incorporate more healthy habits which is always a challenge for me but I see me moving in this direction. I was really sick before Christmas and now that I am well, I don’t want to go back to that place. I’m going to make short trips around Colorado and I’m going to write my book.
I hope to have even more fun and to bring more happiness into my life in 2014. What about you? How are you going to “turn a new leaf” this year? Be sure to have fun doing it.
All is well, right?